It’s amazing
how much can truly happen to a person in one year. How much they can change and
grow. With that said, I will never be done growing, never be done learning, but
I can tell I’ve come a long way from where I once have been.
I especially
hate it when people start bad mouthing other people. I understand people can be
frustrating and annoying. Working as an administrative assistant for more than
three years now I’ve had my fair share of frustrations with other people. During
this time however; I’ve also learned that those people who are frustrating and
annoying 99% of the time do not do it on purpose. I believe people do not
genuinely get up every day wondering how they’re going to tick you off and I do
not believe people say things to make you angry on purpose.
My thoughts
are all coming from a post I saw on Facebook the other day. I have multiple
problems with voicing your frustrations on Facebook because not only do you not
say it directly to the person who has offended you, trying to solve the
situation, but you say it as a general statement and people “like” the idea not
knowing the FULL story. The post I saw had to do with people needing to mind
their own business. I’m sorry but if you freely give out information then those
same individuals who you told are entitled to give you their opinions. That’s
just how the system works. You shouldn’t get so angry about it.
I’m not
perfect and I definitely struggled within this area for a long time before I
realized that it doesn’t matter. What you feel is right in your heart is right
for you, and not everyone feels the same way. Sometimes people are going to
voice what they believe to be true and the best thing you can do for yourself
is listen, not comment and walk away. Don’t let it upset you. Don’t get frustrated.
When the conversation is over simply say “I’m glad you believe that way and it
works for you” and walk away! Just because you do not agree with someone does
not make that other individual wrong. It just makes you different, and thank
goodness for differences because we would live in a pretty boring world if we
were all the same.
I get so
upset when I see this immature behavior go on behind people’s backs saying that
they’ve had enough and it needs to stop yet it’s never said directly to that
specific person to address the problem. That other person has no way of
defending themselves and majority of the time what was said was taken out of
context or mistaken for what it actually meant. Most advice given is; A. given
out of love – people are trying to watch out for you. B. past bad experience they
endured that they do not want you to have to go through. C. they trust they are
helping you make a better decision. Etc. There are millions of reasons why
people give the advice and opinions that they do and most of them are never for
malicious reasons.
It disgusts
me when humans are nasty towards each other, especially when they think they
are so mature and ready to take on large milestones when they haven’t even completed
the first step of growing up and learning to be kind to others. If you have an
issue with someone please; grow up, step up, take action and go to that person
one on one. The internet doesn’t need to know your issues.
Having taken
the high road and learning to keep my mouth shut I am a much happier person. I
get along much easier with all sorts of individuals and I’ve even restored some
past friendships that ended because we simply couldn’t agree. I am most
grateful that I have those friends back in my life. They are truly wonderful
people with good hearts. It’s hard to believe I would become so angry at them
all because they had a difference of opinion on say birth control, breastfeeding,
home schooling, women working, or music. Such a silly past life that I am glad
it’s over and we’ve all been restored and renew.
To all my
fellow humans out there don’t be afraid to make your own path! Walk a new road
and choose what is right for you. Never let anyone make you feel small or not
as valuable because they have a difference of opinion and choose to blast it
all over social media.
Live. Let
Live. And Do You!