It has been a little over 4 months since I got married.
Married life is sort of what you expect. I definitely had to get used to the idea of someone living with me constantly. One of my biggest struggles in married life so far has been cleaning up messes (in my bedroom, bathroom or kitchen) that I haven't created! I typically find paper towels on the counters, clothes on the floor, towels not being hung back up correctly.... At first it would frustrate me! "How hard is it to put things back where you got them?!" or "Why can't you put things where they go!?" - would often be the first thoughts that popped into my head when I came across these situations. Finally when I actually asked my new husband one of these questions he said "Why can't you keep your hair on your head and off everything else?" and "Why is there always makeup powder on the sink?" Point is....I've been doing stuff all along that frustrates him too! Don't misunderstand, we never got in a fight over these issues, but we did have to talk it out. Now, when I see his clothes on the floor I say "They're not going to get washed!" and when one of my hairs wraps around his toes he exclaims "I'm going to strangle you with one of these one day!" We've learned to laugh about it.
I often think that this is how divorce can start. It's the little things that get to you and eat away at your heart until you're bitter about a situation. Before you know it that person you loved so much has now become the most annoying creature on the face of this earth. Hurt sets in and that's where hatred can start.
It was a reminder that we need to choose to love our spouses each and every day with a new love every morning. They are not perfect, we are not perfect and therefore; we will have imperfect days. We can't let those days define our marriages.
My husband is my best friend. We were together 4.5 years before we said 'I do.' This gave me time to know him, time to spend together, time to understand one another. I'm not saying I know everything about him. In fact, I just had to ask him today if he liked pecans (he does by the way). What those four and a half years did do though is give me the ability to learn what kind of man he is. There's a saying that goes like this "If you want to know how a man is going to treat you, watch and notice how he treats his mama." My husband loves his mama and I love him for that. I love that he is close with his family. He's always treated me with respect, has never yelled at me even when we were arguing, has always put me first and this is why I chose him.
Very few people know what we went through medically in 2013 as a couple. For me, it was a very scary time full of the unknown. It was definitely a make it or break it point in our relationship. I'm happy to state the obvious that we came out just fine. It made our relationship so much stronger. It was actually his turning point in our relationship, the thing that made him know 110% that I was the woman for him. I wasn't going anywhere even when scary situations (medically and financially) reared their ugly heads.
All this to say - I LOVE my husband. I'm glad we took our time and choose to wait a few years before getting hitched. I'm so happy with how our life is turning out. I love the roads we're traveling together, the life we're building and the plans we're making. I would choose it all over again. Every Time.
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Married life is sort of what you expect. I definitely had to get used to the idea of someone living with me constantly. One of my biggest struggles in married life so far has been cleaning up messes (in my bedroom, bathroom or kitchen) that I haven't created! I typically find paper towels on the counters, clothes on the floor, towels not being hung back up correctly.... At first it would frustrate me! "How hard is it to put things back where you got them?!" or "Why can't you put things where they go!?" - would often be the first thoughts that popped into my head when I came across these situations. Finally when I actually asked my new husband one of these questions he said "Why can't you keep your hair on your head and off everything else?" and "Why is there always makeup powder on the sink?" Point is....I've been doing stuff all along that frustrates him too! Don't misunderstand, we never got in a fight over these issues, but we did have to talk it out. Now, when I see his clothes on the floor I say "They're not going to get washed!" and when one of my hairs wraps around his toes he exclaims "I'm going to strangle you with one of these one day!" We've learned to laugh about it.
I often think that this is how divorce can start. It's the little things that get to you and eat away at your heart until you're bitter about a situation. Before you know it that person you loved so much has now become the most annoying creature on the face of this earth. Hurt sets in and that's where hatred can start.
It was a reminder that we need to choose to love our spouses each and every day with a new love every morning. They are not perfect, we are not perfect and therefore; we will have imperfect days. We can't let those days define our marriages.
Very few people know what we went through medically in 2013 as a couple. For me, it was a very scary time full of the unknown. It was definitely a make it or break it point in our relationship. I'm happy to state the obvious that we came out just fine. It made our relationship so much stronger. It was actually his turning point in our relationship, the thing that made him know 110% that I was the woman for him. I wasn't going anywhere even when scary situations (medically and financially) reared their ugly heads.
All this to say - I LOVE my husband. I'm glad we took our time and choose to wait a few years before getting hitched. I'm so happy with how our life is turning out. I love the roads we're traveling together, the life we're building and the plans we're making. I would choose it all over again. Every Time.
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Read about marriage advice and the most important question to ask
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